Best of It’s Conceivable 2012: A Year End Review!

Best of ICN 2012

I learned a lot in 2012, but one of my favorite discoveries was this very website. My wife and I found it a few weeks after we decided that 2012 would be the year of Getting Serious about Babies, and after weeks of perusing the Internet trying to figure out what exactly it is that two women do when they want to have a baby together, it was like a long drink of water, this website. So here, without further ado, are my favorite IC posts:

A great run-down of the psychic lay of the land for people choosing a donor, complete with potential pitfalls: Of Donors and DoSies: a Few Thoughts, Dos and Don’ts

This List of Sperm Banks. We had no idea what we were doing, and then we found this.

Every story in the They Did It section. Sir Mix and I traded stories we found here for hours the first night we found it. It was all completely abstract to us, and then suddenly here were these real people answering real, even logistical questions about starting families.

The Adoption Home Study for Same Sex Couples.

Call Your Father – A bittersweet post about fatherhood, fathers, and this crazy roller coaster we call life from Henry Amador of DADSquared.

A Mother’s Response to Newtown: Betsy Fife Archer with a healthy dose of perspective.

Editor’s Year End Note

Hi – Kendra here. In addition to Katie’s wrap-up, I wanted to share a few of my own favorite posts throughout the year. In August, we celebrated turning 1-year-old. Since we launched, I have been bowled over by the contributions we have received, from real stories to legal advice, personal meditations and just plain funny stuff. Our writer ranks have been bolstered by some amazing regular contributors this year, including Henry, the DADSquared founder with a poet’s soul; Charlotte and Betsy of the hilarious and awesome blog Turkey Baster and a Bottle of Wine; the solid and supportive advice of adoption lawyer Evita Nancy Torre. Finally, this year was made extra-awesome by the addition of our associate editors Jen and Katie: smart, funny ladies that helped pick up my slack by covering news, writing insightful pieces, and sharing personal anecdotes with style. Here are my personal picks for best posts of 2012:

Last January, we were treated to the first of a spate of guest posts by Rebecca Donahue, also known as the hilarious Sweet Mother on the Internets. Catch up here, and we might get a reprise in 2013.
Letters to My Gayby #1: Oral Hygiene
Letters to My Gayby #2: Gayby Speak Pretty One Day
Letters to My Gayby #3: Crunching Numbers

Another must-read from January: Shannan’s insightful breakdown of how to prepare for a second parent adoption as a lesbian couple.

In February, I made myself laugh by publishing some Gay Parenting e-Cards.

In March, Gwendolyn doled out some advice on a sensitive subject: the lack of sex during the long road to pregnancy.

In April, all-star contributor Alison gave The Other Mother Pep Talk. While you’re catching up with Alison, check out another favorite post of hers, The Allure of a Butch Mama.

May included a step-by-step Q & A with Brooklyn midwife Gina Eichenbaum-Pikser on At-Home Insemination.

We also welcomed the first of many insightful and personal guest posts from Super Dad Henry Amador of DADSquared. Start with his story of Foster Parent Adoption in Florida.

In June, regular contributor Jess opened up about the challenges of the open adoption process. Later in the year, I let it all hang out after viewing her sample adoption profile.

July brought tons of good stuff, starting with a personal, beautiful coming out story from Kacy of The Real L Word.

Also in July, Jen took the Government to task in a take-down of DOMA, and I had a talk with gay parenting researcher (and generally awesome lady) Abbie Goldberg. Also, I discovered Same Love, the best song ever.

In August, Jen submitted one of our most popular posts, explaining exactly why Lesbians Love Doulas, and Katie compared her mission to get pregnant to the Curiosity Rover.

In September, Katie brought out the de-confusinator to explain what Obamacare means to LGBT families and scored an interview with gay parenting poster boy Zach Wahls.

In October, Charlotte Capogna-Amias meditated on Gender Roles and Queer Parenthood and Katie and Sir Mix-a-lot went sperm shopping.

November brought a Historic Night for Same Sex Rights, as we celebrated the re-election of Barack Obama. Of course, there is still a lot of progress to be made, evidenced by Betsy Fife Archer’s post on living in North Carolina as a gay parent and Surviving the Holidays when your family isn’t exactly supportive.

Finally, this month Jen provided a solid list of LGBT books for kids and some musings on the importance (or non-importance) of dressing her daughter in pink or blue.

Thanks again to everyone who contributed this year. And readers, please let us know if there are any topics you’d like to see in 2013. We love to hear from you!




  1. Henry Amador says:

    So happy to be part of the ICN family, 2012 has been beautiful but….2013? WATCH OUT!! :)


    It has been a pleasure writing for It’s Conceivable Now, and I’m so proud to share the site with my LGBT clients at The Center. xo

  3. Jess says:

    This website has offered me a myriad of wonderful things. Support, information, community, and a place to share my story. I am incredibly thankful and incredibly proud to be a part of it.


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