Choosing the team that will assist you in becoming a parent is one of the most important decisions you will make if you are a queer parent or gay couple considering IVF. Not only will it be important to feel supported throughout the process, let’s face it: This is a huge financial and emotional commitment. According to the American Fertility Association, you should ask the following questions of an IVF clinic before you begin working with them as a Gay couple:
- In what year was your clinic established?
- Do you offer both egg donation and surrogacy on site? If not, can you recommend a donor agency and/or a reproductive attorney who is well versed in surrogacy and family law for the gay community?
- If I identify a reproductive attorney and/or a donor agency that I wish to work with, will you accommodate my choice?
- What is your success rate for this procedure?
- What if it doesn’t work the first time, what are our options and costs for subsequent attempts?
- What medical tests will I need to have done prior to giving a sperm sample?
- Can sperm samples from both my partner and myself be combined? How is this accomplished? Does this always result in a multiple birth?
- How can we assure the health and well being of both our gestational carrier and our egg donor throughout this process?
- Are you registered with the Food and Drug Administration as a Human Cell and Tissue Establishment?
- Are you a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM)? Do you follow ASRM guidelines on protocols concerning number of embryos transferred?
- What percentage of your clients are gay?
- How do we become matched with a surrogate through your program?
- How do we become matched with an egg donor through your program?
- What are your fees?
Source: Building the Family of Our Dreams: A Primer for the LGBT Community Handbook provided by the American Fertility Association.
It’s Conceivable is pleased to provide the above information from The American Fertility Association. Their website has a wealth of resources for GLBTQ parents, including fact sheets, articles and FAQs.