Questions to Ask an IVF Clinic as a Gay Couple

Choosing the team that will assist you in becoming a parent is one of the most important decisions you will make if you are a queer parent or gay couple considering IVF. Not only will it be important to feel supported throughout the process, let’s face it: This is a huge financial and emotional commitment. According to the American Fertility Association, you should ask the following questions of an IVF clinic before you begin working with them as a Gay couple:

  1. In what year was your clinic established?
  2. Do you offer both egg donation and surrogacy on site? If not, can you recommend a donor agency and/or a reproductive attorney who is well versed in surrogacy and family law for the gay community?
  3. If I identify a reproductive attorney and/or a donor agency that I wish to work with, will you accommodate my choice?
  4. What is your success rate for this procedure?
  5. What if it doesn’t work the first time, what are our options and costs for subsequent attempts?
  6. What medical tests will I need to have done prior to giving a sperm sample?
  7. Can sperm samples from both my partner and myself be combined? How is this accomplished? Does this always result in a multiple birth?
  8. How can we assure the health and well being of both our gestational carrier and our egg donor throughout this process?
  9. Are you registered with the Food and Drug Administration as a Human Cell and Tissue Establishment?
  10. Are you a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM)? Do you follow ASRM guidelines on protocols concerning number of embryos transferred?
  11. What percentage of your clients are gay?
  12. How do we become matched with a surrogate through your program?
  13. How do we become matched with an egg donor through your program?
  14. What are your fees?

Source: Building the Family of Our Dreams: A Primer for the LGBT Community Handbook provided by the American Fertility Association.

It’s Conceivable is pleased to provide the above information from The American Fertility Association. Their website has a wealth of resources for GLBTQ parents, including fact sheets, articles and FAQs.

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